If you sometimes think about the fact that you have a hyperactive child, what to do in such a situation, this article will give some advice to parents. In it, we will try to determine whether your child is hyperactive or not, and if the answer turns out to be positive, then, for my part, I can offer you advice and recommendations on raising him.
First of all, let’s try to figure out how hyperactivity manifests itself in children, whether your child is such, or is he just very energetic.
Immediately I want to make it clear: if your child is active and restless, very often requires your attention, sometimes falls into tantrums and hooliganism, this does not mean that you need to worry and run to specialists for advice.
Signs of an energetic child
Let’s try to answer the following questions for ourselves:
1) can your child play or do any other activity on his own for 5 minutes or more?
2) Does the child sleep for 3 or more hours without a break?
3) listens and remembers (albeit not always) your instructions?
4) the kid may be intimidated, hysterical, but is it quite possible to persuade him to stop doing this, and is he able to stop?
This means that you should not worry ahead of time about raising a hyperactive child. Most likely, your child is just an energetic, lively person. But the problem of a hyperactive child is that it is difficult for him to stop and concentrate, he will behave the same everywhere, neglecting social norms.
Signs of hyperactivity
The main signs of a child’s hyperactivity include:
- Emotional instability: the child is tearful, impulsive, often throws tantrums;
- Disregard of socially established norms: he constantly protests, he has problems with behavior at school or in kindergarten; constantly and everywhere he fidgets, cannot sit in one place, jumps up, his excessive motor activity usually has no purpose, he just can’t do it any other way;
- Negligence and dissatisfaction: it is difficult for the child to concentrate on anything, he constantly makes mistakes when performing tasks, suffers from forgetfulness.
- Sleep disorders: the child sleeps very little and badly, constantly wakes up.
What to do if you have a hyperactive child
Of course, having found all the listed signs, you should not instantly diagnose your child and rush for a sedative. The main thing to do is to calm down yourself. Or at least try to do it.
Remember that it is almost impossible to diagnose a hyperactive child before 4 years of age. If your child is younger, and the diagnosis was still made and a sedative was prescribed, take this with a great deal of skepticism.
Consult several good specialists at once, preferably two neuropathologists to clarify the diagnosis and a family psychologist. It is the psychologist who will help you build a more correct idea of how to proceed.
Start with yourself, because the child is very sensitive to your emotions. Think about the fact that your baby needs support and understanding, and for this we need to be strong and be able to control anger. Before you start raising a hyperactive child, educate yourself.
Take time for yourself – albeit a little, but qualitatively. Take a relaxing bath, arrange a meeting with friends, just sit in silence for a while, do what you love, or think of something else. Try to periodically carve out such moments for yourself, because it is much easier for a cheerful and rested person to cope with everything.
A hyperactive child needs systematization
Remember that it is difficult for a child to organize their activities. Try to discuss with him and write down the daily routine together. Make a list of rules, set boundaries – what you can and shouldn’t do.
Control the child’s actions, but do not put pressure on him, specify your instructions or instructions, tell the child exactly what you want from him. Everything should be simple and straightforward. The child can often forget instructions, and your task is not to be angry with him, to repeat your requests as many times as necessary.
It is especially difficult if a hyperactive child in kindergarten or school behaves inappropriately. Then you need to explain the situation to the educators. They are professionals and must understand how to behave in such a situation.
Rewards, communication and new experiences
Praise your child and do not scold for mistakes and failures. Let him have a desire to improve his achievements, and not just correct mistakes. Remember that a hyperactive child needs a comfortable and trusting environment. Encourage him for even the smallest successes, talk about how dear he is to you and that you love him very much.
Talk to him more often, avoid conflict situations with you and others. Communication should help him learn to concentrate and be a little calmer. If you are unsure of what to do with a hyperactive child at home, get everyone in the family involved. However, this does not mean that everyone needs to talk to him at the same time – it will only make it worse.
New impressions are also very important, but here again there is a risk of overexcitation. Therefore, there is only one advice: dose the events associated with new impressions.
Anything can be such an events. For example, just the ability to actively move around on a playground or sports ground. The main thing is that you are sure that it is safe enough for your baby. Play football, basketball or other games together, go to the pool – there, too, you can arrange a lot of funny games. Hyperactivity in children at such moments makes it possible to release excess energy.
Arrange a home theater or something else that will interest your child. Be more attentive to him, listen to his hobbies and preferences, give him the opportunity to realize yourself, because your child is a unique, inimitable creation. He should not be like everyone else, if only because each person is individual, no one is like anyone else, and this is wonderful.
Tips for Parents for Bonding with a Hyperactive Child
Minimize the risk of over excitation. As I said above, the most basic advice to parents of hyperactive people is not to let the child get overly excited, as it will be much more difficult to calm him down later, especially before bed. Try to work with other family members to create a calm and comfortable atmosphere in your home.
If you have a hyperactive child, treatment will not help. Your attitude and, especially, tactile contact is important for him. Hug the baby, touch him, stroke him as often as you can, it is very important for him to feel your love and care shown in this way.
Education and recreation of a hyperactive child
Since it is quite difficult for a child to concentrate and sit in one place, choose the shortest possible tasks and conduct classes in an easy playful manner. If the child is already attending school, then it is better to do homework in several stages.
Before going to bed, give your baby a soothing bath with pine needles. Light massage and relaxing music will also be helpful. This should help the hyperactive child calm down more quickly. Try to keep in contact with TV, computer and other equipment to a minimum in the evening, or better, so that it is not at all. This will prevent additional overexcitation.
Of course, it is not always possible to do everything the way it should, strictly follow the recommendations and advice. But don’t give up on anything! There is no need to be afraid that you have a hyperactive child: you already know what to do in this case.
If something doesn’t work out, give yourself a chance to think about why this is happening. Think about the funny and happy moments associated with your baby, and you will succeed. The main thing is to do everything with love, and we, parents, have a bottomless ocean.